It’s the candid conversation heard ’round the world.

On the season 6 finale of the show Love Is Blind, star Clay Gravesande’s mom, Margarita Gravesande, watched her son leave the woman he supposedly loved and was to marry standing alone and abandoned at the altar.

His reason? He wasn’t sure he knew how to love or be a faithful husband because he’d grown up watching his father cheat on his mother repeatedly.

“I looked up to my dad, I loved how smooth he was. So the pros of my dad, I identified, and I wanted to be like my dad,” Clay shared in the finale, “But I didn’t know that I took some of his cons as well.”

Margarita acknowledged feeling devastated by the impact her ex-husband Trevor’s infidelity had on their son. The pattern is unmistakable; it’s almost as if Clay has stepped into his father’s shoes, unable to love or be loved in a healthy way because of his dad, a prominent role model in his childhood.

At the wedding that was not to be, Margarita delivered wise words to her toxic ex-husband that proves a cautionary tale for the rest of us.

“Kids, when they grow up and see things, it’s like, ‘Is marriage for real? Or is marriage something that you get into … and you deceive?’” she told Trevor frankly.

You can watch part of the incredible moment below.

@netflix.reality.clips Clay's mom talks to Clay's dad about what happened at the wedding #loveisblindseason6 #ClayLoveisBlind #ADLoveisBlind #ClaysMomLoveisBlind ♬ original sound – Netflix Clips

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